Perfection & Perfectionism vs Mastery
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Perfection is a myth. Perfectionism is constant Stress. Are you trying too hard or being too critical on yourself?
A study I have been doing on asking professional adults age group 24-60 – how do they treat themselves if the commit a mistake : 90% said they are very harsh and critical on themselves and feel they deserve to be punished. Do you know this kind of internal talk is equivalent to injecting poison in your body.Yet most do it because that is only considered as a right .However – Perfection is a total myth
Are you a Perfectionist? What is Perfectionism?
Perfectionism is an inanimate definition which makes us believe in ego more. It is the voice of fear which makes us believe we necessarily need to meet some manmade standards in order to be happy and successful – failing which you don’t deserve happiness or joy.
Most perfectionism comes from childhood conditioning and the worlds around us. We are born flawless as children – but as we grow up we get trained into the predefined model of perfection. And if we do not meet the criteria we are deemed as failures. The worst is we keep being harsh on ourselves all the time for not being perfect.
What are some things which happen when we believe in perfectionism
§ Perfectionism stops us from starting something new: Perfectionism makes us wait till we are perfect thus stopping us from taking the first step. Imagine you are so scared of making mistakes you ll wait till you are perfect hence won’t take the first step
§ Perfectionism keeps us in the loop of eternal stress: When you want to be perfect you are all the time thinking about it and stressed about your performance
§ Perfectionism makes us decline our self-worth: Perfectionism makes us self critical and have a harsh self-talk thus bringing down our self-worth. Imagine when we have standards set for certain things in our life and if we do not meet them? That is exactly how we feel when we haven’t achieved targets or goals. We keep beating ourselves up for not achieving perfection
§ Perfectionism makes us feel we don’t deserve: Perfectionism will make you feel you do not deserve because all the time you ‘ll believe you need to achieve certain things to deserve something. This will keep you in the obsessive loop of trying and trying to meet some criteria. This is what we call as ‘I am not good enough’ syndrome
§ Perfectionism keeps us away from achieving huge dreams: The fear of only achieving your dreams when you are perfect will always keep your dreams ‘out there’
§ Perfectionism makes us self-critical: We always tend to critically evaluate ourselves all the time when we are being perfectionists. Criticism is a by-product of such self-analysis and perfectionism.
§ Perfectionism does not let us live the truth: Living our truth means knowing our heart’s desire, expressing it and practicing it by staying committed to it. When we are trying to be perfectionists, we ll be living what are the fixed points of view about society – thus running away from our true authentic truth.
§ Perfectionism doesn’t allow you to live in Allowance: Allowance as per Gary Douglas of Access Consciousness is when everything is an interesting point of view. When you are trying to be a perfectionist – you ‘ll either agree or align to points of view or reject/react to them. By doing this – we stop being in allowance and hence lose out on lots in life
How is a Master different from Perfectionist and why should we inculcate Mastery not Perfection
§ Mastery is an ongoing journey while perfection suggests you’ve arrived, you’ve made it, you’re done
§ Master accepts his flaws and loves them – Perfectionist is critical of his flaws and will keep on trying to hide or improve them
§ Mastery is an inward journey whereas perfection is an outward journey
§ Mastery goes with the flow – perfection asks for specific milestones
§ Mastery helps us know ourselves better – perfection depicts your performance
§ Mastery focuses on self-worth – perfection reduces self-worth
So Do you Seek Mastery or Perfection ?
Whatever you choose – make sure it makes your life bigger, better and more joyful
Ashwini Chube
Coffee Cubicle Cabin Is Unicorn Insight’s weekly Segment where we write about tips to help Corporate Professionals deal with life skills and personal development. It is published every Wednesday
About the Writer
Ashwini Chube is a Corporate motivational speaker- trainer, Access Bars Facilitator ,Reiki Grand Master, Life Transformation & Wellness coach ,Writer, Zumba Instructor and founder of Unicorn Insight Trainings She is an upcoming writer with 2 books ready for release.
Ashwini has been a former Investment Banker having worked with Morgan Stanley and Royal bank of Scotland.
Log on www.unicorninsight.com for more about Trainings with them
Facebook page : Facebook.com/ashwinichubeofficial
A study I have been doing on asking professional adults age group 24-60 – how do they treat themselves if the commit a mistake : 90% said they are very harsh and critical on themselves and feel they deserve to be punished. Do you know this kind of internal talk is equivalent to injecting poison in your body.Yet most do it because that is only considered as a right .However – Perfection is a total myth
Are you a Perfectionist? What is Perfectionism?
Perfectionism is an inanimate definition which makes us believe in ego more. It is the voice of fear which makes us believe we necessarily need to meet some manmade standards in order to be happy and successful – failing which you don’t deserve happiness or joy.
Most perfectionism comes from childhood conditioning and the worlds around us. We are born flawless as children – but as we grow up we get trained into the predefined model of perfection. And if we do not meet the criteria we are deemed as failures. The worst is we keep being harsh on ourselves all the time for not being perfect.
What are some things which happen when we believe in perfectionism
§ Perfectionism stops us from starting something new: Perfectionism makes us wait till we are perfect thus stopping us from taking the first step. Imagine you are so scared of making mistakes you ll wait till you are perfect hence won’t take the first step
§ Perfectionism keeps us in the loop of eternal stress: When you want to be perfect you are all the time thinking about it and stressed about your performance
§ Perfectionism makes us decline our self-worth: Perfectionism makes us self critical and have a harsh self-talk thus bringing down our self-worth. Imagine when we have standards set for certain things in our life and if we do not meet them? That is exactly how we feel when we haven’t achieved targets or goals. We keep beating ourselves up for not achieving perfection
§ Perfectionism makes us feel we don’t deserve: Perfectionism will make you feel you do not deserve because all the time you ‘ll believe you need to achieve certain things to deserve something. This will keep you in the obsessive loop of trying and trying to meet some criteria. This is what we call as ‘I am not good enough’ syndrome
§ Perfectionism keeps us away from achieving huge dreams: The fear of only achieving your dreams when you are perfect will always keep your dreams ‘out there’
§ Perfectionism makes us self-critical: We always tend to critically evaluate ourselves all the time when we are being perfectionists. Criticism is a by-product of such self-analysis and perfectionism.
§ Perfectionism does not let us live the truth: Living our truth means knowing our heart’s desire, expressing it and practicing it by staying committed to it. When we are trying to be perfectionists, we ll be living what are the fixed points of view about society – thus running away from our true authentic truth.
§ Perfectionism doesn’t allow you to live in Allowance: Allowance as per Gary Douglas of Access Consciousness is when everything is an interesting point of view. When you are trying to be a perfectionist – you ‘ll either agree or align to points of view or reject/react to them. By doing this – we stop being in allowance and hence lose out on lots in life
How is a Master different from Perfectionist and why should we inculcate Mastery not Perfection
§ Mastery is an ongoing journey while perfection suggests you’ve arrived, you’ve made it, you’re done
§ Master accepts his flaws and loves them – Perfectionist is critical of his flaws and will keep on trying to hide or improve them
§ Mastery is an inward journey whereas perfection is an outward journey
§ Mastery goes with the flow – perfection asks for specific milestones
§ Mastery helps us know ourselves better – perfection depicts your performance
§ Mastery focuses on self-worth – perfection reduces self-worth
So Do you Seek Mastery or Perfection ?
Whatever you choose – make sure it makes your life bigger, better and more joyful
Ashwini Chube
Coffee Cubicle Cabin Is Unicorn Insight’s weekly Segment where we write about tips to help Corporate Professionals deal with life skills and personal development. It is published every Wednesday
About the Writer
Ashwini Chube is a Corporate motivational speaker- trainer, Access Bars Facilitator ,Reiki Grand Master, Life Transformation & Wellness coach ,Writer, Zumba Instructor and founder of Unicorn Insight Trainings She is an upcoming writer with 2 books ready for release.
Ashwini has been a former Investment Banker having worked with Morgan Stanley and Royal bank of Scotland.
Log on www.unicorninsight.com for more about Trainings with them
Facebook page : Facebook.com/ashwinichubeofficial
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