Are you willing to be happy or want to fit in?

How many times we are scared to be happy? How many times you feel people will judge you if you are happy? How many times you feel if you are happy you ll attract an evil eye?

These all is just a conditioning a belief system that is highly fear based and imbibed in us .. implanted in us as a part of this reality we live in. 
As a child I was always very happy just for no reason... my life was and has always been amazing. While growing up my peer group often judged me as shallow or not too serious or even stupid for being happy. I was the odd being out as in the world of serious and sad people who took life seriously.
To fit in the peer group I tried to get serious but still my original nature of being happy prevailed. I attracted different comments from  “ Isko kuch farak nahi padta ( it doesn’tmake any difference to her)- especially when people were studying for exams  “ you got to be serious about life”- When I used to be happy even in difficult situations  to “ Hey comedy - chal humko hasa …

An Open letter from a spiritual coach to anyone who asks for free advice, walks on our boundaries or treats us casually

We are coaches healers therapists teachers counsellors trainers motivators. We have our own families, responsibilities,friends, romantic relationships, work commitments, social interests,hobbies. In short We have a life.
Yes we are helping you  to deal with your lives. We know it is difficult for you and we are ready to help you. But please don't ask for free advice. Don't say I want to meet you in a coffee shop which means you want to meet us to dump your problems on us and take our advice for free. It takes a lot of energy listening to your problems. And a lot of time too. Our time and energy is much more valuable than you may think. 
We have spent years together learning to master various therapies and we are not perfect ..we are still learning .We have spent even more hours practicing doing homework. We have even spent much much more time in doing meditations and inner journey . We have invested a lot of money in leaning and studying . We too have bad days terrible days wher…

Haters gonna hate you - judge you .Does judgement give you money ?

Very recently one of the most influential industrial families of India - the Ambanis hosted a grand big fat wedding for their daughter Isha. The Indian Media went gaga over the celebration. The Indian common men and women (who actually have only 1% of the bank balance as compared to Ambanis) apparently went on and on trolling about how pathetic the wedding was and how much money they spent.
Priyanka Chopra one of the lead Bollywood and Hollywood actress too got trolled for marrying Nick Jonas just because he is a decade younger to her. Internet trollers called her everything from aunty to babysitter. Recently when she posted a romantic picture of her with her husband  the same trollers continued to mock make fun and judge her.
Deepika Padukone and Ranveer Singh too were trolled for having “ bad dress sense” in their grand wedding 
Now in all the above 3 examples- whether it is Mukesh Ambani or Priyanka Nick or Deepika Ranveer- are these all really affected? Do you th…

You are enough

You are Enough!!

Valentines Day and truth about Self Love

By Ashwini Chube

It’s important to understand what self love is. Self Love isn’t some fancy word .
Most people prefer to ‘mock’ the concept of self love . They don’t even know what it means. For many self love means eating a big dessert full of sugar and saying I am treating myself ..infact the sugar may be doing more self hatred to you than love. The fact that we seek something external to feel loved itself is a wrong notion.

It’s amazing to have loved ones in our life but note that if you don’t love yourself enough it will reflect on your relationship with your significant other and rather than addressing it internally you ll just keep blaming them. Some of the most happy n healthy couples have ample self love as the base for their relationship

Love truly comes from within. Whatever is happening from outside is only a mere reflection of the way you are treating yourself.

Ofcourse we were not taught life skills like - self lo…

Lessons to learn from Jack Canfield

Learnings from Jack Canfield 
Well imagine- you have been watching videos,reading his books and doing online learning from a big famous mentor and have been awestruck by his phenomenal work. And one fine day you get to learn with him . How would you feel? How would you react . Isnt it a dream come true?
Chicken soup for the soul released when I was in school. Probably so young not even ready to read such books. Besides I wasn’t a book reader at all in school.I had just heard about thus book being released in America and that it was a best seller (superhit according to the pre teen me)
In 2009 My life changed when I read the amazing book The Secret by Rhonda Byrne followed  by the same being converted to a movie. Among the great speakers - the most remarkable was Jack Canfield talking about the law of attraction .Well it completely blew me up.! Among all the celebrities featured on the Secret the most impactful was Jack when he spoke about his publshing Chicken Soup for the soul and how h…

Management Lessons - Growing good corn

Growing Good Corn

James Bender, in his book "How to Talk Well" relates the story of a farmer who grew award winning corn. Each year he entered his corn in the state fair where it won a blue ribbon. One year a newspaper reporter interviewed him and learned something interesting about how he grew it.

The reporter discovered that the farmer shared his seed corn with his neighbors. "How can you afford to share your best seed corn with your neighbors when they are entering corn in competition with yours each year?" the reporter asked. "Why sir," said the farmer, "didn't you know? The wind picks up pollen from the ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbors grow inferior corn, cross pollination will steadily degrade the quality of my corn. If I am to grow good corn, I must help my neighbors grow good corn." He is very much aware of the disconnectedness of life. His corn cannot improve unless his neighbor's corn also impro…

The Universe has your back

2018 has been a difficult year for many energy workers like you and me. And being a person who always looks at the glass half full we have still managed to live with a smiling face.  The year had many revelations..many closures ..many difficult times with finances and health...and many wounds coming to the surface to be healed once and for all.  Many times I have had a bad day and spent time anxious stressed and in extreme pain and agony. And probably had one good thing in the day which I was grateful for..still choosing to highlight it be it through my work dance.. or quotes /Video on my Facebook page or blog and cheering up my followers and readers. The point is we are all humans beings and emoting is as natural as breathing. So understand that we are working on ourselves every single day. Even when we aren’t. Its ok to rest take care of yourself and to say a No to anything that doesn’t honour you
I learnt many lessons this year the most important were  - To stand up for myself…