Happy Mothers Day- To All the Women who are not yet Moms

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Do you just become mom by giving birth?

It is easy to write happy mothers day to all lovely moms who are experiencing joy of motherhood after giving birth. Motherhood is joy . It is difficult too at times but it is all worth.

But today’s article is not just for  Biological Moms. It is for all those who have been shamed for not been Moms yet. Are you one of them?


Time and Again as a Tarot reader I face a question by clients “ When will we become parents /When Will i get pregnant? “
As a Consciousness facility I keep getting asked” Can you give me clearings so that we become parents soon”
And as a wellness coach I have been meeting clients who are facing so many emotions 
  • Frustration for not being able to conceive
  • Guilt for not bearing a child yet
  • Stress for when will they get pregnant 
  • Judgement for “enjoying life without kids”
  • Being called everything from Selfish to Infertile and Irresponsible 
I know women who have broken down in front of me for not being “ good women” because they are yet not biological mothers
 All the time they keep hearing questions /statements like follows

“ When are you giving us Good News”
“ What you don’t have a child yet?”
“ What you are already 35 and not yet a mother- It will be a difficult pregnancy for you in this age?”
“ Why are you so ambitious? After all how will you manage to be a mom if you have long working hours”
“ Your cousin is 5 years younger to you and has 2 kids - how about you?”
“ Atleast give us grandchildren so that we can die in peace”
“ What you have decided not to gave children? But why?”
“ if you keep working whole day when will you get pregnant “
“ I know a good doctor- will take you there”
“ I know a good astrologer - come with me. They ll tell you when you ll get pregnant “

Last but not the least 

“ Oh it is easy for you to be successful and do a career because you have no kids!
I cant be successful like you ya - I m a Mom na”


So Ofcourse if you are biological mother - I salute you. 

I have had a safe and happy childhood thanks to my amazing Mom who always told me to stand up for what is right. I never had anything unanswered and grew up in a loving protective environment 
I also have an elder sister who has also been another mom to me taking care of me and giving me love and support all the time.

If you are not yet a mother- this day is still for you
You may had a difficult journey becoming a mother. Or it was easy for you . Or somewhere in between. May be you got some great support from family or friends bringing up your baby. Or you were all alone. Or you suffered post partum depression. You gave up your career or managed balancing your job . In all cases you are doing great

But next time you meet a woman who is not yet a mother - be gentle on her. You never know how many ivfs she has failed. Or how many miscarriages she had or if she just broke up a marriage. 
Even if she isnt a mother - she is still a mother 

Today I would like to wish happy mother’s day to all the Women
  • Who are struggling to conceive for years without any success 
  • Who have lost a child in a miscarriage 
  • Who have been forced to abort a female foetus 
  • Who are smiling through infertility when the society taunts them “ you seem to be enjoying life”
  • Who are shamed for being career oriented when they are just saving money to have a child in the future 
  • Who have crossed 30 or 40 and are shamed for the so called ticking biological clock
  • Who really want to be mothers but have not yet found a partner 
  • Who are in a relationship yet to get married because they have other responsibilities and hence aren’t yet mothers 
  • Single mothers who have walked out of abusive marriages
  • Single mothers who have lost a partner to death 
  • Women who have decided not to have kids and just be . They have all rights to take up the decision and it is not Selfish 
  • Aunts ,Elder Sisters and girl friends who are loving a child like a mother
  • All pet owners who have a pet
  • All women taking care of a sick or elderly family member like a mother 
  • Finally - Single fathers who are playing both mom and dad for the children


You are still Mothers. Happy Mothers day to all. Keep spreading Love ladies - not Judgements.

And also understand- everything in this Universe has a time. Your time will come😇

Love to all my readers


About the writer 

About the Writer 
Ashwini Chube is a Corporate motivational speaker- trainer,Access Bars Facilitator ,Reiki Grand Master, Life Transformation & Wellness coach ,Writer, Zumba Instructor and founder of Unicorn Insight Trainings 
Log on www.unicorninsight.com for more about Trainings with them
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  1. Meena S10 May 2020 at 04:51

    Beautiful article Wini❤️ Happy Mother's Day to you and all healers who give their best to guide and heal🥰

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